After sex, it reverses. As much as I hate to agree with a competitor, Argov has written many books helping the same women that I help, she speaks the truth with that quote. slept with your ex boyfriend and you are trying to figure out how in the world you are going to get him to commit to you. Today I am going to give you a very long in-depth explanation of what you are going to have to do to successfully win him back if you slept with him.
But as more time went on I began to realize that, that may rub off on some people the wrong way. He hardly ever talks to me anymore and
I slept with my ex he does he is very distant. And the more time I slept with my ex we have invested into the chase the more likely our feelings are to grow for the person we are chasing. Chase theory for an ex girlfriend and an ex boyfriend is a bit different due I slept with my ex the fact that he has already gotten you.
Instead, and I realize I am going to take some major heat for this, ex boyfriends have a tendency to chase something different…. However, since this is an article about teaching women how to get an ex back if they slept with him I am going to go out on a limb here and say that you have a boyfriend who is like this. He has already achieved his goal and in this case that goal is trying to have sex with you. So, we slept together and it was amazing! And when I finally do get in touch with him he wants nothing to do with me.
What do I do? Well, as much as I hate to say it, it looks like a man who acts in this way is purely motivated by sex and nothing else. For example, he learns these pickup routines to pick up girls and ends up sleeping with them.
After he is done sleeping with them he kicks them out of his house. Granted, he is a hilarious TV character but if your ex boyfriend is a real life version of Barney Stinson then you would find yourself in this exact circumstance where he would never call you.
To have a friend who is a girl that he can use for sex when he wants and then ditch her when he wants and then use her for sex again. Well, this may be hard for you to hear but if your ex boyfriend and you are in a FWB friends with benefits agreement with your ex then he has no intention of being your boyfriend again.
Well, either that or that he agreed with your decision to break up with him. If your ex boyfriend chases you constantly for sex over and over again then you know that he made his decision as to if he will leave the chase or continue it to try to set up a friends with benefits type of situations.
You see, in the movies and TV there always seems to be this inevitable conversation where a couple, in agreement, decides to have a friends with benefits relationship. There is a negative stigma that surrounds friends with benefits because ultimately one person will always want more. Besides, I have yet to meet a girl that wants to be friends with benefits for the rest of her life.
So, what ends up happening is that there is an unwritten agreement where two people embark on a FWB relationship without a conversation ever taking place. How do you get out of a friends with benefits situation and get back into a committed relationship? Because you are trying to get your ex boyfriend used to a world where he has to work for the right to be intimate with you.
Now, expect some push back from him immediately after you make this change. Oh, I also should mention that I am telling you this because he will probably disappear for a few weeks before popping up again. Thousands upon thousands of people asking me questions about their particular situation. In fact, it I slept with my ex so overwhelming that I ended up writing a book to better answer their inquiries.
Anyways, I remember receiving a private message after I had posted this podcast episode about sleeping with an ex. The girl who private messaged me wanted to know what she had to do to get her ex back even though she was kind of in a friends with benefits situation.
She informed her ex boyfriend that the two of them would no longer be sleeping together and that she was tired of being used for sex. I want you to go into this and realize that what I am proposing here is not going to be the most popular idea to your ex boyfriend BUT it is what you are going to have to do to give yourself the best shot at success. As I am about to explain men are very motivated by sex and we can use this to our advantage in a way by dangling sex in front of I slept with my ex to lead him to a commitment.
Anyways, there was this town, Hamelin, that had a severe rat problem so they decided to hire the piper to get the rats away. In fact, he decided that to get back at the town he was going to lure all the children away with his magic flute just like he did to I slept with my ex rats.
Because you are going to be a pied piper yourself by using sex to lure your ex boyfriend into a commitment. More on that later or if you want immediate gratification check out PRO as I talk about this there. Free On Demand Coaching Yes, please. However, what I can tell you about my kind is that we do think about sex, a lot. In fact, we think about it every day. Oh, and when you add in the fact that 43 percent of us admit to thinking about sex at least several times a week you have a lot of thoughts of sex.
We are going to use these thoughts of sex to our advantage by dangling the idea of sex in front of him and using it to get what you want, a commitment. How you can hold a ball on a string in front of a cat and the cat is constantly taking a swipe at it I slept with my ex then right before the swipe hits the ball you pull it away. The more you do this to your cat the more that the cat becomes invested and really wants that ball.
You will notice that in this graphic you are the one dangling the ball which represents sex in front of your ex boyfriend who is the cat. The idea here is that you are "I slept with my ex" your ex boyfriend to become more invested in trying to get you.
Ok, think back to what I was talking about with the pied piper and how he used his flute to get the rats and children away from the city. Well, we are doing something similar here with your ex boyfriend except we have an end destination, a commitment. However, our flute is going to be replaced by the ball on a string game that I was showing you above.
By doing this you are keeping your ex boyfriend engaged as you navigate the treacherous terrain to a commitment. I want you to take a look at that graphic I created for you above where you are essentially dangling sex I slept with my ex front of your ex and waiting for him to take a swipe.
This skill is one of the hardest for women to wrap their minds around because they place such an emotional emphasis on sex. When you are in a situation where you are trying to get him back and you are deciphering his every move which means that anything positive that he does that can lead to a commitment in the future is going to make you one happy gal.
So, if he does something on purpose just I slept with my ex get sex but you perceive it as him wanting a commitment while you are dangling sex in front of him. We already know that sex is going to be on his brain and the chances that he will bring it up is going to be high due to the fact that he has recently slept with you.
So, rather than getting to into the specifics I think this would work better if I did a bit of role playing. Perhaps now would be a good time to mention that I came out with a book that deals only in text messages and what to say to your ex boyfriend called The Texting Bible … Ok, pitch over.
Now this is where things get graphic so I will spare you the specific details by censoring the text.
Now, when you think of the ball on a string game with a cat what happens when a cat starts to swipe at the ball? Well we are going to do the same thing here except we are going to do the texting version of this.
Of course, I know that you still probably have a lot of questions about this process and how it works for other mediums of communication.
Trust me, just stick to this template and you will be able to captivate your ex all the way to a relationship. Now, there is one last thing I would like to talk to you about, the big picture of how this leads to a commitment. Third, think the reason so many parents love their little babies so much is due to the fact that they invest so much into them.
Think about it, my wife and I love our little girl so much and this is compounded by the fact that we pretty much spend our every waking moment tending to our needs. The Pied Piper Theory utilizes this thinking as this ball on a string game forces your ex boyfriend to invest time with you which ultimate leads to a commitment. So my ex and I went out for 4 years and lived together for 3 years. We were friends and he said he wanted to try but slow and then I begged for him back and he told me he never wanted to speak to me again.
Should I just see how it goes and stop having sexual wit him? Or try no contact? So the two of you have some solid history of 4 years and that can act as a bit of a magnet to pull you back toward each I would just go slow…. No time for no contact if you are getting along OK. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4months ago.
Then after about two weeks later, he I slept with my ex to apologize for everything. He calls me sometimes.
Eventually we started having sex and leaving his place, he ll call me back after 3 weeks. I still want him back. Kind of an off on relationship. So that cycle is usually not good. IF he is not showing any willingness to work on the relationship, then consider no contact.
Hi, me and my ex were in a relationship for 13 years. What should I do? I feel kind of stupid for doing it but then I dont. I know it was immature but I did it anyways. I am sorry he cheated. I slept with my ex is no excuse.
Weakness, stupidity, whatever it is that he says made him do it does not excuse it. But with all that said, it happens to a lot more couples than you would think and it need not break the relationship forever.
Trust can return, though your ex will need to apply him self and have more transparency. Make him aware this is not punishment, but rather you need to heal and reflect on things and that he needs to do the same. I have a lot information here on my site about NC and the ex recovery process if you go
I slept with my ex route.
I was in NC period for about 4years then finally we started contacting each other. Worse thing now, we went for a dinner and he began to kiss me and we ended up having sex but he acted like nothing happened the next day and left. I love him so much but I feel like he has just used me for sex and nothing more than that. Sleeping with your ex isn't always a bad idea. You just have to make sure you know what you're getting into first. Here's how.
"For me, having sex with my ex was one of the best decisions I made for myself emotionally. —Olga shares how sleeping with her ex helped clean her slate. Although a survey of 1, people by Adam & Eve found that most people, at 56 percent, haven't slept with an ex, there's still that